IMPROVE YOUR EMOTIONAL BANDWIDTH

People that can handle the most stress are often seen as great leaders, great sales people and seem to dominate life.

 

Why can some people handle so much, and more and more everyday and others crumble when the fire heats up?

How much you can handle often defines you in life.  Are you calm in the storm?  Can you “Keep Calm and Carry on”?

5 tips to work on expanding your emotional bandwidth:

1. Research has shown you can’t be thankful and stressed.  So think of things to be thankful for when you are stressed.  As an “old timer” told me recently, “Joel I didn’t sleep well last night, but I did wake up!”

2.  Pray.  Go to Church.  Take a walk in the woods.  Work on your spiritual well being, whatever that means to you.  Remaining calm in adversity is a sign of great spiritual strength.  No matter what’s going on in your life right now you will be able to “Hold your peace.”

3.  Be with family and friends.  A tree with strong roots can tolerate almost any storm, the ones with shallow roots perish quickly.

4.  Fail Forward.  Failing is part of growing and change.  Embrace the fall.  Just learn from it and get up quicker.

5.  Love.  Care.  Serve.  If we choose to help others, our own problems seem to go away.

 

– Joel Fleischman.  Joel is the president & Head Coach of the solution providers for Drexel Building Supply.  (drexelteam).   You can follow him on twitter:  @JoelmFleischman.  He has provided solutions for builders and their clients since 1996 and a whole bunch of other stuff that you probably don’t care about.

FIGHT ON

 

 

TGIM!

We are up 20% in company sales for the year.  New construction in Wisconsin is at 0% growth.

The 20% growth arrives to us because we have helped a customer, a person, a business, take the leap of faith from a competitor to us.  Nothing wrong with the place they came from…we just do it the Drexel way, a place where we truly believe that customer is better served.

That means some of our competition is down in sales.  The food they are used to eating is gone.

So some of our weakest competition is spreading lies, rumors, low prices, shameful tactics, even asking some of our family to join them to get our business.  They are circling us like hungry hyenas.  They don’t know what else to do.

As we have always done, we will continue to fight them.

DREXEL DOES NOT LIVE IN FEAR.

We will fight the Drexel way:

Using our humble and hungry energized soul and all the love and passion for:

Our core values.

Our Drexel family.

Our daily GRIND.

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WE, ALL OF US..  will Thank our customers every single chance we get and ask them how better we can help them next time.

TEAM PLEASE GO AND…

Serve. Love. Care.  … for our customers, our community, and each other this week and beyond.

 

– Joel Fleischman.  Joel is the president & Head Coach of the solution providers for Drexel Building Supply.  (drexelteam).   You can follow him on twitter:  @JoelmFleischman.  He has provided solutions for builders and their clients since 1996 and a whole bunch of other stuff that you probably don’t care about.

 

THE SECRET OF BUSYNESS AND STRESS – DON’T BE A REPTILE

Are you busy?  Really busy?  Stressed?  Really Stressed?

It’s good right, I mean, you got this?.  You want to be busy, both at home and at work.  It’s how life should be!

Deep down you know… NOT REALLY… THIS ISN’T THE REAL ME…

Do you feel like you don’t have time to better yourself and read this

IT MIGHT BE TOO LATE FOR YOU…

FOR 3 MINUTES PLEASE READ THIS… BEFORE IT REALLY IS TOO LATE…

How Stress Impacts Your Ability to Learn

The human brain looks for stress.  It’s a safety mechanism.  You might even say that safety is our number one concern. From an evolutionary standpoint, that makes a lot of sense.

But in the modern world, the tendency of the brain to be constantly on the lookout for danger is not so helpful. That’s because, whenever the brain identifies something it perceives as dangerous– tough customers, high self expectations, critical work situations, busyness… it creates stress.

Stress hormones are produced in a portion of the brain that is frequently called the lizard, or reptilian brain.

Unfortunately, when the reptilian brain is activated, the forebrain or neocortex is shut down.

When you are in “stressed mode” you become an animal.  I’ve been there. It’s not pretty.

When you are stressed your brain goes into reptile mode.

Ok, what does reptile mode mean?

Think of an alligator.  They don’t have relationships.  They survive.

Some of the traits associated with the reptile brain are:  aggression, dominance, rigidity, aloofness, greed.

Think of an alligator defending it’s territory.  Now think of a stressed out co-worker, friend or family.  See the resemblance?

Traits of the neocortex: Logic, creative thinking, communication skills, controls emotions.

You can survive without the neocortex working well but you are an ANIMAL to those around you.

If we make time to invest in our relationships and spent quality time with our family, friends and colleagues we would dramatically improve the quality of our lives and careers.   We slow down.  We are less stressed and busy.

We feed what Jon Gordon calls the positive dog.

Yet, too often busyness and stress cause us to focus on what is urgent instead of what matters most.

We focus on our to-do list instead of people and our own survival instead of building thriving relationships.

Busyness and stress are the enemies of great marriages, teamwork, relationships, and customer service. Busyness and stress keep us from caring about the people and things we are supposed to care about.  It feeds the reptile.

In many ways it’s not our fault. Science tells us that when we feel busy and stressed we activate the reptilian part of our brain. If you know anything about reptiles they will never love you. Reptiles want to eat you. They are all about survival. And so are we when we feel busy and stressed. Creating meaningful relationships is the last thing on our mind when we are stressed. Instead our reptilian brain is thinking about how to just make it through the day and it will eat anyone for lunch that gets in its way.

The good news, however, is that we have another part of the brain called the neocortex. We activate it when we love, care, pray, and practice gratitude. In any moment we can override the reptile with the positive dog.

We can choose to love people instead of ignoring them.

We can choose to slow down instead of rushing.

And we can choose to be thankful instead of stressed.

In fact, the research shows we can’t be stressed and thankful at the same time. So anytime we are feeling busy and stressed we can pause, take some deep breaths, focus on gratitude, pray, and change how we approach the day and the people in our life.

I know how and why busyness and stress can sabotage my joy and relationships. I know the antidote to busyness and stress is a positive thought away. I know that in each moment of my busy life I can override the reptile and focus on my relationships. And I know that when I make relationships my top priority everything in my life is better.

Thank you for reading this post.  Grateful you took the time.  Kill that reptile in your brain.  Feed the positive dog.

– Joel Fleischman.  Joel is the president & Head Coach of the solution providers for Drexel Building Supply.  (drexelteam).   You can follow him on twitter:  @JoelmFleischman.  He has provided solutions for builders and their clients since 1996 and a whole bunch of other stuff that you probably don’t care about.

*** Excerpts directly from Jon Gordon’s Blog.  Thank you Jon.