You get ONE life, not two.


And that life just got smaller.

Just got smaller again.

I want to, or I will?

I should of, or I did?

Someone should, or will you?

Fear makes you not start, and often not finish.

Faith makes you start, and helps you finish.

You will never live again.




One quick story.

A coach told him you can do anything if you believe in yourself.

She then said to the player doubting himself.

“Go, move that rock.”

It was a huge boulder.

He tried and tried and couldn’t move it.

He gave up.  He said it was impossible.

She went over and helped him.

She said, “Son, you didn’t try your best, you didn’t ask someone for help.  Often you see you can’t do it yourself, but you can encourage your team to help.  Nothing is impossible.”




Don’t wait for your life to start.  Get on the ride.  Hit the gas and go for it.

No one was ever created to be normal.  Use your skills that you uniquely have.

– Joel Fleischman.  Joel is Head Coach of the solution providers for Drexel Building Supply.  (drexelteam).   You can follow him on twitter:  @JoelmFleischman.   Our mission is to be a supplier of others happiness.  I hope this little post did just that.





E-mail, quick, easy, and it’s the way we communicate…



Here’s the example.

I Never Said She Stole My Money: 7 Different Meanings

“I never said she stole my money” has 7 different meanings depending on the stressed word.

I didn’t say she stole my money – someone else said it.

I didn’t say she stole my money – I didn’t say it.

I didn’t say she stole my money – I only implied it.

I didn’t say she stole my money – I said someone did, not necessarily her.

I didn’t say she stole my money – I considered it borrowed, even though she didn’t ask.

I didn’t say she stole my money – only that she stole money.

I didn’t say she stole my money – she stole stuff which cost me money to replace.

Seven simple words that have 7 meanings.


Now think about sending a long e-mail to an upset customer, a proposal to a future client you have never met, a “process and procedure/accountability” e-mail to a team member saying they screwed up and need to get better (but you still love them).
If it’s personal, emotional, sensitive, sales potential related… don’t e-mail.  Meet face to face, or at least pick up the phone.  Avoid at all costs e-mails back and forth.
That way the MEANING IS CLEAR.
– Joel Fleischman.  Joel is Head Coach of the solution providers for Drexel Building Supply.  (drexelteam).   You can follow him on twitter:  @JoelmFleischman.   Our mission is to be a supplier of others happiness.  I hope this little post did just that.





It’s baseball season, and I know a lot of you play, cheer, or coach.

It’s also our selling season, so we let “a lot” slide because our teammates are “too busy to do it right.”

This blog addresses both of these things!


In Nashville, Tennessee, during the first week of January, 1996, more than 4,000 baseball coaches descended upon the Opryland Hotel for the 52nd annual ABCA convention.

While I waited in line to register with the hotel staff, I heard other more veteran coaches rumbling about the lineup of speakers scheduled to present during the weekend. One name, in particular, kept resurfacing, always with the same sentiment — “John Scolinos is here? Oh man, worth every penny of my airfare.”

Who the heck is John Scolinos, I wondered. Well, in 1996 Coach Scolinos was 78 years old and five years retired from a college coaching career that began in 1948. No matter, I was just happy to be there.

He shuffled to the stage to an impressive standing ovation, wearing dark polyester pants, a light blue shirt, and a string around his neck from which home plate hung — a full-sized, stark-white home plate. Pointed side down.

Seriously, I wondered, who in the hell is this guy?

After speaking for twenty-five minutes, not once mentioning the prop hanging around his neck, Coach Scolinos appeared to notice the snickering among some of the coaches. Even those who knew Coach Scolinos had to wonder exactly where he was going with this, or if he had simply forgotten about home plate since he’d gotten on stage.

Then, finally …

“You’re probably all wondering why I’m wearing home plate around my neck. Or maybe you think I escaped from Camarillo State Hospital,” he said, his voice growing irascible. I laughed along with the others, acknowledging the possibility.

“No,” he continued, “I may be old, but I’m not crazy. The reason I stand before you today is to share with you baseball people what I’ve learned in my life, what I’ve learned about home plate in my 78 years.”

Several hands went up when Scolinos asked how many Little League coaches were in the room. “Do you know how wide home plate is in Little League?” After a pause, someone offered, “Seventeen inches,” more question than answer.

“That’s right,” he said. “How about in Babe Ruth? Any Babe Ruth coaches in the house?”

Another long pause.

“Seventeen inches?”came a guess from another reluctant coach.

“That’s right,” said Scolinos. “Now, how many high school coaches do we have in the room?” Hundreds of hands shot up, as the pattern began to appear. “How wide is home plate in high school baseball?”

“Seventeen inches,” they said, sounding more confident.

“You’re right!” Scolinos barked. “And you college coaches, how wide is home plate in college?”

“Seventeen inches!” we said, in unison.

“Any Minor League coaches here? How wide is home plate in pro ball?”

“Seventeen inches!”

“RIGHT! And in the Major Leagues, how wide home plate is in the Major Leagues?”

“Seventeen inches!”

“SEV-EN-TEEN INCHES!” he confirmed, his voice bellowing off the walls.

“And what do they do with a a Big League pitcher who can’t throw the ball over these seventeen inches?” Pause. “They send him to Pocatello!” he hollered, drawing raucous laughter.

“What they don’t do is this: they don’t say, ‘Ah, that’s okay, Bobby. You can’t hit a seventeen-inch target? We’ll make it eighteen inches, or nineteen inches. We’ll make it twenty inches so you have a better chance of throwing the ball over it. If you can’t hit that, let us know so we can make it wider still, say twenty-five inches.’”


“Coaches …”


” … what do we do when our best player shows up late to practice? What do we do if he violates curfew? What if he uses drugs? Do we hold him accountable? Or do we change the rules to fit him? Do we widen home plate?

“…what do we do when a team member comes into work late, doesnt’ fill out the correct paperwork, takes shortcuts, or doesn’t meet deadlines?  Do we widen the plate?”

The chuckles gradually faded as four thousand coaches grew quiet, the fog lifting as the old coach’s message began to unfold.

Then he turned the plate toward himself and, using a Sharpie, began to draw something. When he turned it toward the crowd, point up, a house was revealed, complete with a freshly drawn door and two windows. “This is the problem in our homes today. With our marriages, with the way we parent our kids.  Our work life.  With our discipline. We don’t teach accountability to our kids, or teammates, and there is no consequence for failing to meet standards. We widen the plate!”

Pause. Then, to the point at the top of the house he added a small American flag.

“This is the problem in our schools today. The quality of our education is going downhill fast and teachers have been stripped of the tools they need to be successful….to educate and discipline our young people. We are allowing others to widen home plate! Where is that getting us?”

“And this is the problem in the Church, where powerful people in positions of authority have taken advantage of young children, only to have such an atrocity swept under the rug for years. Our church leaders are widening home plate!”

“And this is the problem with work life.  We enable people by doing the work for them.  Or allow them to “bully us” and have them not do best practices.  We don’t want to “ruffle feathers” and have those tough conversations so we “work around the real issues”.

I was amazed. At a baseball convention where I expected to learn something about curveballs and bunting and how to run better practices, I had learned something far more valuable. From an old man with home plate strung around his neck, I had learned something about life, about myself, about my own weaknesses and about my responsibilities as a leader. I had to hold myself and others accountable to that which I knew to be right, lest our families, our faith, and our society continue down an undesirable path.

“If I am lucky,” Coach Scolinos concluded, “you will remember one thing from this old coach today. It is this: if we fail to hold ourselves to a higher standard, a standard of what we know to be right; if we fail to hold our spouses and our children and co-workers to the same standards, if we are unwilling or unable to provide a consequence when they do not meet the standard; and if our schools and churches and our government and businesses fail to hold themselves accountable to those they serve, there is but one thing to look forward to …”

With that, he held home plate in front of his chest, turned it around, and revealed its dark black backside.

“… dark days ahead.”

Coach Scolinos died in 2009 at the age of 91, but not before touching the lives of hundreds of players and coaches, including mine. Meeting him at my first ABCA convention kept me returning year after year, looking for similar wisdom and inspiration from other coaches. He is the best clinic speaker the ABCA has ever known because he was so much more than a baseball coach.

His message was clear: “Coaches, keep your players — no matter how good they are — your own children, and most of all, keep yourself at seventeen inches.

(Copied post) from Elijah Steiner’s Facebook Page

Shared By: Melanie A. Peters


Guest Blogger…thank you Andy Rettler!


Just read this morning….from the CEO of Dropbox who did commencement speech at MIT.


He said that if he had a cheat sheet that he could hand to his 22 year old self it would have three things on it:


  1. A tennis ball
  2. A Circle
  3. The number 30,000


A tennis ball because the most successful people are passionate/obsessed about solving problems.  When he brings out a tennis ball for his dog, he sees how crazy/obsessed his dog is with the tennis ball, and this reminds him of that.


A circle because people are typically an average of the 5 closest people that they surround themselves with.  Surround yourself with passionate and successful people in a successful environment to bring the best out of yourself.


30,000 because, on average, people live about 30,000 days.  Make each day count.


I am incredibly guilty of over-complicating my life due to challenges, schedules, problems…etc.  Simplified models like this make me realize how simple things CAN be, and a reminder like this always helps.


A ball, a shape, and a number…can’t get much more simple than that.  Be passionate about what you do, care each day.   We’ve all already put ourselves in  at Drexel to be in a successful environment, so all we have left is a ball and number.   Don’t overthink it.