ONE DAY LATE. BUT BETTER THEN NEVER.
I was reading a fiction book recently (rare for me to read fiction, but I enjoyed the book (I would give it 4.5 blue stars of excellence (out of a possible 5))
Anyways, in the book, I read part of the text and it made me stop reading… I almost gasped.
CONTROL IS AN ILLUSION.
CONTROL IS AN ILLUSION.
We can not control anything in this life. Not our family. Not our health. Not our work. We can’t make people buy from us. We can’t control ANYTHING. All of this is a mere illusion isn’t it? What can we control? Nothing that I can think of. We can only influence…
So… why is that so earth shaking…
- Quit worrying. You can’t control it anyways. Remember worrying is not a badge of honor that you love someone more. It’s not. “I worried so much about you dear, couldn’t sleep all night…” That is not showing your love, that is a problem…
- Change. Since control is an illusion you must ride the change that is coming, prepare and be ready for it.
- Get after it! Continue to try. Fail? Good! Continue to improve. Expect results that you don’t expect and adjust! Control is an illusion.
- You can influence. You can’t control.
A few things from Joshua Medcalf today…
So true how the above applies to our core values:
Change. Be the creator of change, be a servant to others, let THEIR IDEAS CHANGE YOU. Instead of feeding the beast. Serve. Love. Care.
Expect people to be more organized? Be more organized yourself.
Expect people to complain less? You yourself rise above first.
Want every load to go out great? help that person double check their load.
Need someone to help you out? Help them out first.
Lastly, I heard somewhere and tend to believe it.. we need to treat people more like your garden …
If your garden if failing, you weed it, fertilize it, water it. You don’t BLAME THE SEED. Yes there are some bad seeds… but we have GOOD SEEDS HERE… so let’s weed fertilize, and water them!
We need sales…. like the air we breathe… I think we ALL FORGET THAT SOMETIMES. SALES IS THE TOOL NEEDED TO SURVIVE. AND AS WE GROW WE NEED ALL WE HAVE MORE AND MORE…ALL OF US NEVER FORGET THAT! STAY HUNGRY!
Anyways, yesterday I called Mike Kaerek, Kaerek Homes who will builds a few hundred homes this year…but more importantly a great guy with a great company… I was a bit anxious… but I called anyway…ready to go get his millwork business, at least get an appointment for a needs analysis, with our team, we would KILL THIS… I called, I was put on hold… I was sure of a voicemail…Hello, this is Mike… holy smokes, he picked up… Mr. Kaerek sir…how are you… etc… Anyways, you good on your millwork supplier, could we meet to see if we can help?… His words? “Your chances are slim and none, and slim just left.”
At that second, you know what I thought?
Now we are closer to a yes! Each NO scientifically proven to be closer to a YES, you can’t go ZERO for life!
Opportunity to help someone else.
He now knows we DO MILLWORK.
OPPORTUNITY TO TRY AGAIN TOMORROW!
Lastly I will leave you with this…
When faced with a problem or dilemma how would you tell your best friend to fix it? What are the words you would use, most likely encouraging right?…
Talk this way TO YOURSELF. Treat yourself as you would your best friend. I bet that will really help!
Be your own best friend. Boy that seems so obvious… YET… HERE WE ARE…
TIME TO IMPROVE!
— – Joel Fleischman. Joel is Head Coach of the solution providers for Drexel Building Supply. (drexelteam). You can follow him on twitter: @JoelmFleischman. Our mission is to be a supplier of others happiness. I hope this little post did just that.